Advice in wedding articles is often catered towards women, but why not switch it up and give some advice specifically for the men? Here are some tips for what to have in place PRIOR to you getting down on one knee! If you are having any uncertainties or just want to make sure that you have dotted all your i’s and crossed your t’s, then this post is for you!
An engagement is such an important part of a woman’s life, and no matter if it goes horribly wrong or amazingly well, it is something that she will remember forever. There are a few things that are an absolute must in proposal planning.
First, make sure that you and your significant other are on the same page about where you guys stand in the relationship. There is nothing more heart-crushing and gut-wrenching than a turned down proposal. Thankfully, this can be avoided by throwing out subtle hints to find out if they are ready for marriage. Ask questions that incorporate “we” and the future, in order to get a feel for if they even see you in their future. You can even use the old trick of swinging her by the jewelry department to look at rings. If she is lighting up like a candle, chances are she is ready. On the other hand, if you can see the fear in her eyes, abort mission!
I often hear things along the lines of “that will ruin the surprise” or “I don’t want them to know what I’m planning, but the proposal itself shouldn’t be the surprise. It is the where, when, and how that is the true element of surprise. Thankfully, most people’s significant other will throw out hints of their own, like showing you the kind of rings they like or using statements like, “This would be such beautiful place to get married.” This is by far one of the most important steps prior to proposing. Don’t rush this process, trust the process. It can be the difference between one of the best and worst days of your life.
Once you know that your partner is ready to take that next step, the planning can commence! At this point in your relationship you should have a good understanding of their likes and dislikes. You should have a good idea of whether or not they like surprises and whether they would want it done in an intimate setting like home, family gathering like a BBQ, or over a romantic candlelit dinner. If you don’t know these things, then it’s back to the drawing board. Don’t cancel your plans of proposing, but like before, ask some questions that could give you the general idea of what they would like, or even think about the times that you two shared together and what elements made them the happiest. You want this to be as special a moment as possible. If you are having trouble deciding what to do, or what to incorporate in the proposal, consult the best friend. Before you do this, make sure you know whether or not your significant other’s best friend is a chatty patty, and if they are, swear them to secrecy. A best friend is the perfect way to get the scoop (especially on the perfect ring).
Finally, this last step can happen before or after the planning process, but it MUST happen. If your boyfriend or girlfriend’s parents, guardians, or parental figures are living and involved in their life, ask for their blessing. It may seem like an outdated task but trust me, it such a respectful thing to do, and it will make a world of a difference as you become a new addition to the family. Do yourself a favor, and get yourself some brownie points!
If you’ve got all of these things together, you are looking at the perfect proposal! It may seem like a lot of thought and planning, but think about the smile on your future fiance’s face when you pull off the proposal of their dream: priceless!
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